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Tales of Beedle the Bard Honoring Elders



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“Upon the father’s death, the son found hidden inside the old cooking pot a small package bearing his name. He opened it, hoping for gold, but found instead a soft, thick slipper, much too small to wear, and with no pair. A fragment of parchment within the slipper bore the words “In the fond hope, my son, that you will never need it.”

The son cursed his father’s age-softened mind, then threw the slipper back into the cauldron resolving to use it henceforth as a rubbish pail.

- J.K. Rowling, Tales of Beedle the Bard



We learn from the tale of the wizard and the hopping pot one of the amazing things this story provides: This behavior, honoring parents, elders, and ancestors, does not depend on what material things they gave or left us when they departed, or even whether what they did for us. Rather, we honor parents simply because they gave us the magical gift of life.

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By honoring those who brought us into existence, we learn not to take things for granted and develop an appreciation for the goodness and gentleness of other people. With that introduction, let's get to the practical "how to" of respecting and revering one’s elders. Do you care for their needs? Do you think honoring parents or elders goes beyond just doing favors for them like admiring them to be notable people? In your culture or religion, are you obliged to honor and respect them even after they have passed away?


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Do you care for their needs?
Yes they are to be cared for if they cannot care for themselves. And if they can it is still respectful to help them. Their well-being is our responsibility.
Do you think honoring parents or elders goes beyond just doing favors for them like admiring them to be notable people?
Yes, honoring them requires you to live a life they would be proud of. You honor them by being a good person/parent/worker/whatever. You take pride in whatever you do because they taught you to have integrity.
In your culture or religion, are you obliged to honor and respect them even after they have passed away?
Yes. Respect just as much after they have passed just as you would when alive. If it were not for them your family tree would have no roots.
 

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Yes, I think everyone should take care of their parents and elders. Just think about how much time and money they used for you. Taking care of them is the least we can do. Live your life so your elders would be proud of you. They taught you what you know. Thank them for it.
It's a pity that in society today, a lot of people no longer care about their parents and elders and just brush them aside. I have seen it over and over. A parent gets sick and needs help. They are ignored--the son/daughter saying they don't have time to care for them. MAKE TIME. It's the least you can do for them.
When my mom was dying, I was working full time, going to college full time and I still made time to help her and be with her every day. I really admire the Amish for the way they take care of their elders. Usually a house is built near the main house so they can be taken care of more easily.
I agree with Alicianna39. I agree 100% with what she said here " Respect just as much after they have passed just as you would when alive. If it were not for them your family tree would have no roots. ". Well said.
 

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I agree with Josette, that everyone should take care of their parents and elders. They took good care of us and raised us with long hours of time, love and money.

Do you care for their needs?
Yes, I do care for my parent's and grandparent's needs. I see myself reversing our roles as we get older.
We tend to do more of the house and yard work. My parents do less work around the house. I find myself doing more errands for them too.

Do you think honoring parents or elders goes beyond just doing favors for them like admiring them to be notable people?
Yes, I do think we go beyond favors. We are inspired to be like them. They are respected and excellent role models. They have tons of experiences, knowledge, and advice that one can learn from.

In your culture or religion, are you obliged to honor and respect them even after they have passed away?
In our culture, we are obliged to honor and respect them. We visit the cemetery and bring flowers throughout the year. We remember them at church.
 

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Do you care for their needs?
Yes i did , I took care of both of my parents , and I am not taking care of my brother . it does take a lot of of a person, it is always nice if you can get help .

Do you think honoring parents or elders goes beyond just doing favors for them like admiring them to be notable people?
yes I certainly do , they are excellent role models , they are very wise, and have experience things and life that we have not yet. it is the most respected and honorable thing for us to realize that they are still people who teach , love and care .

In your culture or religion, are you obliged to honor and respect them even after they have passed away?
oh yes certainly, we remember them on special days, and we visit them at the cemetery , at bring either flowers or blankets . its usually traditional to put a blanket on their graves at for Christmas .
 

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I Agree with Razor Blade , that we should take care of our own parents and elderly. there is a saying that goes... 1 mother can take care of 10 children , but 10 children can't take care of 1 mother...We need to change this saying...We need to revere our elderly!!

Do you care for their needs?
Yes i did , I took care of both of my parents , and I am not taking care of my brother . it does take a lot of of a person, it is always nice if you can get help .

Do you think honoring parents or elders goes beyond just doing favors for them like admiring them to be notable people?
yes I certainly do , they are excellent role models , they are very wise, and have experience things and life that we have not yet. it is the most respected and honorable thing for us to realize that they are still people who teach , love and care .

In your culture or religion, are you obliged to honor and respect them even after they have passed away?
oh yes certainly, we remember them on special days, and we visit them at the cemetery , at bring either flowers or blankets . its usually traditional to put a blanket on their graves at for Christmas .


( sorry for the double post..but I did try to edit it...and it would take it ... )
 

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I definitely respect my mom and my grandmother, but honestly a lot of my family members I have little respect for. I think a lot of them are not the nicest people and they don't do much to respect others so they don't really deserve the respect in return. I have some family members that have passed as well, and I still don't respect them at this point because of how they treated others.

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They took good care of us and raised us with long hours of time, love and money.

This isn't always true, though. In a lot of cases, especially these days, parents and elders don't necessarily take care of their children or anything like that. It's sad, but I see it all the time. So in that case, they don't deserve to have the love and respect of their children if they aren't doing their very best to care for them and love them.
 

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I definitely respect my mom and my grandmother, but honestly a lot of my family members I have little respect for. I think a lot of them are not the nicest people and they don't do much to respect others so they don't really deserve the respect in return. I have some family members that have passed as well, and I still don't respect them at this point because of how they treated others.



While I understand this very well, sometimes we are put in positions, like I am, where we have to care for those that are not very nice. But they are blood relatives and it is hard to tun your back on anyone, let alone those who brought you into the world.

Now on to the questions:


Do you care for their needs?

Yes I do. as well as I can.

Do you think honoring parents or elders goes beyond just doing favors for them like admiring them to be notable people?

Admiration is earned, but sometimes care does go beyond the occasional favor. I think we have a duty to make sure they do not become society's cast offs.

In your culture or religion, are you obliged to honor and respect them even after they have passed away?

Yes, and sometimes it is quite hard. But it is my duty, my task in life and so I try to do it with as much grace as possible. One should not speak ill of their dead relatives, for we do not always know or understand what they have been through.

 

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While I understand this very well, sometimes we are put in positions, like I am, where we have to care for those that are not very nice. But they are blood relatives and it is hard to tun your back on anyone, let alone those who brought you into the world.



I understand this, and maybe at first you can find it hard to turn your back, but the worse and worse these people prove to be, the easier it is to just cast them out of your life and not look back.
 

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While I understand this very well, sometimes we are put in positions, like I am, where we have to care for those that are not very nice. But they are blood relatives and it is hard to tun your back on anyone, let alone those who brought you into the world.



I understand this, and maybe at first you can find it hard to turn your back, but the worse and worse these people prove to be, the easier it is to just cast them out of your life and not look back.



I could never find it inside me to abandon them, no matter what.

 

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And that's always true for some people, but for others, it's much easier to do what's best for you and leave some people in the dust, blood relative or not.
 

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I have to agree with that. Everyone as to do what is right for them and their physical, emotional and spiritual well being.

 

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I think that Josette is right when she says that there are a lot of cases where people don't care for their elders as much as they should. However I don't think that this is particularly specific to our elders, if anything people care less about their fellow humans in general. That said I work with a lot of kids who have really good relationships with their grandparents, maybe there is hope.
I think that respecting people, elders included, needs to go far beyond the doing of favours or physically caring for them (although this can be a key part of it). It needs to be more about caring and companionship, listening to them and the knowledge and advice they have to give.
 

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I think that Josette is right when she says that there are a lot of cases where people don't care for their elders as much as they should. However I don't think that this is particularly specific to our elders, if anything people care less about their fellow humans in general. That said I work with a lot of kids who have really good relationships with their grandparents, maybe there is hope.
I think that respecting people, elders included, needs to go far beyond the doing of favours or physically caring for them (although this can be a key part of it). It needs to be more about caring and companionship, listening to them and the knowledge and advice they have to give.



You are right, It's not just our elders. We seem to be losing compassion for everyone. It breaks my heart.
 

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I agree with the above post of JosetteElise we have a responsibility to care for those who cared for us.
. Do you care for their needs?II took care of my my Father Mother and Step Father all tell they passed at home.
Do you think honoring parents or elders goes beyond just doing favors for them like admiring them to be notable people? I think you do what you can for them, be it tending them at home if your able, or making sure they are well cared for by others if need be and are safe. Not everyone can care for there parents themselves and I won't judge those who cannot as long as the insure their parents are well treated, visit often and know they are loved.
In your culture or religion, are you obliged to honor and respect them even after they have passed away?Yes always we revere our elderly generation upon generation
 

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Do you care for their needs?
Of course, you do. I'm caring for an elderly relative now. Yes, I'm doing it because she is family, but I truly enjoy her company. We are friends more than relatives.

Do you think honoring parents or elders goes beyond just doing favors for them like admiring them to be notable people?
Honoring anyone is more than just doing small favors. It is understanding them and learning from them. They can teach us so many life lessons.

In your culture or religion, are you obliged to honor and respect them even after they have passed away?
We are not obliged, but to honor and respect anyone should be something we want to do.

I agree with the others that we can be in a rough spot, and it's hard to say what I would do, but it would weigh heavily on my heart not to try. Sometimes their need can be greater than our need to get away. Age changes some people and I've tried to find ways to cope. My situation now couldn't be better. My relative is so appreciative of every little thing I do. I am blessed.
 

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Do you care for their needs?
I do not, as they do not need care, and I live too far away to do so regardless.

Do you think honoring parents or elders goes beyond just doing favors for them like admiring them to be notable people?
I agree with @jfs12 that honoring them is learning from them and their life experiences.

In your culture or religion, are you obliged to honor and respect them even after they have passed away?
Honoring my ancestors is definitely a part of my spiritual practice. I call on them for their wisdom, and honor their contributions to who I am and where I come from.


 

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Do you care for their needs?
I am the last living member of my immediate family so, sadly I don't have parents or older siblings to care for. I do have older friends that I help with getting firewood and other physical tasks. They are both still quite active, so it's more of working with them than doing for them.
I agree with JosetteElise that caring for elderly parents is one thing that children can do to honor having been raised to adulthood by them.

Do you think honoring parents or elders goes beyond just doing favors for them like admiring them to be notable people?
Absolutely! Honoring elders respects their individual life journeys, from which we can learn much. Their living through wars, famine, musical and cultural revolutions can give younger generations valuable insight. I also think that continuing to engage elders in current life keeps them active mentally and helps them see that they still have something to contribute and can still learn new things.

In your culture or religion, are you obliged to honor and respect them even after they have passed away?
Unfortunately, popular American culture worships youth, and millions upon millions of dollars are wasted every year by people attempting to remain young - and, failing that, to achieve the mere appearance of being young. That said, strong spiritual ties can bind families even beyond the passing of family members.
 

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Do you care for their needs?
I do care for my father and step-mother as I am able. They live 6 hours away. I visit them every six months in person to take care of their physical needs by helping with various tasks aroudn their home and yard, looking at any technology problems they are having, and talking with them about whatever they want to talk about. I also engage them virtually about every 3 weeks via Skype, and almost daily by email.

Do you think honoring parents or elders goes beyond just doing favors for them like admiring them to be notable people?
Way beyond! I think it's a good idea, once one is of a certain age, to look one's parents in the eyes and thank them - truly thank them - for bringing you up, for being a role model of whatever it is. Today that might be thanking them for modeling how to react in a crisis. My father was always excellent at this when we were growing up. He'd remain totally calm, and use humor to engage us, reminding us always to breathe.

In your culture or religion, are you obliged to honor and respect them even after they have passed away?
I agree with Mahogany Wild that our culture worships youth. My husband honors his parents by keeping their memory alive. He speaks of them often to his children and somewhat to his grandchildren. My siblings and I honor our mother who is final stages of Alzheimers by trying to focus on the good memories she left us with. She was a difficult mother, but she did have good and loving moments. We are trying to bring these to the fore so that we can remember her in a better way.

 

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As Thesty mentioned, our relationships with our elders is often complicated. One way of honoring them is to see them as human beings. That means to appreciate that they did the best they could with the skills they had and given the constraints of how they were raised. It also means forgiving their shortcomings and focusing on the positive memories. After all, that is what we would hope for as we ourselves become family elders. The Golden Rule applies across generations.
 

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